DOK LEE’S COMMON SENSE GUIDE TO KIDS’ PROTECTION

Chapter 1:  BECOME AWARE Every 21 Seconds a child becomes lost or missing in America. Chapter 2:  INFORM & EDUCATE YOURSELVES  Knowledge Replaces Fear. Chapter 3: COMMUNICATE WITH YOUR CHILDREN Open and honest communication within your family system is the key to your children’s safety. Chapter 4:  CREATE A FAMILY SAFETY PROGRAM  Use DOK Lee’s Common Sense Kids’ Protection Video to spark your family’s interest, and then build a unique program to protect them. Chapter 5:  PRACTICE, PRACTICE, PRACTICE!!! Keep it interesting. Make it fun. Take it seriously. DO IT! Chapter 6:  10 GOLDEN RULES OF SAFETY Learn them. Use them. Keep them near and they will keep you safe.

Every 21 seconds a child is lost, abducted, kidnapped or murdered in this country!

The first step towards assuring the safety of our children is to recognize how serious this problem has become.

The tragedy of missing and exploited children is a national epidemic. Over 1.5 million children were reported missing last year. Think about that statistic for a minute.

Over 1.5 million missing children in one year!

That means that every day, in the U.S. alone, over 4,100 kids are lost, abducted, kidnapped or murdered.

You have seen the news reports. You have watched the anguished, tortured faces of the parents of missing kids. You have heard their tearful cry, “I never thought it could happen to my child!”

We all have to face the facts. It can happen to any child!

Boy or girl. Rich or poor. Small town to inner city. Infant to teenager. Every race, color or ethnic background. EVERY CHILD IS VULNERABLE, EVEN THE CHILDREN THAT YOU LOVE AND WANT TO PROTECT.




What can you do – as a parent, grandparent, family member, educator, law enforcement officer, childcare provider or as any responsible adult who cares about children – to protect our children? What can any of us do to fight back against this horror?

There is no “magic pill” or quick cure for this problem. There is no simplistic answer. There are, however, logical and practical steps that each of us can take very day. And, the solution starts at home within the family group.

This booklet and video program, DOK Lee’s Common Sense Guide to Kids’ Protection, can help you design a strong safety program for you and your family.

The guide contains the most complete and up to date information available to help “kidnap proof” your children. It is filled with tips and suggestions that will help you teach your child how to recognize and avoid dangerous people and situations. The learning techniques outlined here will help you ensure that, not only will kids learn the information, they will retain it and use it in their everyday lives.

The video program takes the training one step further. DOK Lee used his experience from his career as a professional soldier, bodyguard, and self-defense expert to develop this program. For the first time, this video shows kids what they can do to protect themselves … even if the worst does happen.




DOK Lee created this program for two very special reasons: Amanda and Lindsey, his 8 and 11 year-old granddaughters. Lee is 60 now. He retired from his adventurous career over 20 years ago. He lives in a big house in a small, quite, rural town way up north. His son’s family lives nearby and Amanda and Lindsey are his pride and joy.

DOK Lee tells what happened recently: “Amanda and Lindsey ran into the house one day as excited as I have ever seen them. They told me and my wife, Sandy, that they were going to Disney World. I had just read in the paper that the Orlando area had one of the highest crime rates in the country. I suddenly panicked!”

“I realized that these kids had never been exposed to crime in the real world. The area we live in is still safe and almost crime free. We still leave our doors unlocked. My granddaughters have always lived this way. They have never known violence or fear.”

“My son and his wife are great parents. They are devoted to my granddaughters. I realized, though, that they haven’t had to deal with violence and crime recently either. I decided then and there that I would help them create a Family Safety Program.”

DOK Lee and Sandy researched and gathered all the latest information on keeping kids safe. They discussed the material with their granddaughters and communicated the importance of being aware and alert. Finally, they were satisfied that Amanda and Lindsey and the family were




well-versed in safety procedures. Lee felt, though, that there was still something missing.

“The material we collected was very good. It emphasized that kids should never trust strangers, never take anything from strangers, and never, never go anywhere with a stranger. But, none of the material told kids what to do if a stranger actually grabbed them.”

“I have taught adult self-defense courses for 40 years, even since I retired. One of the first things I teach is how to escape from holds. So, I started showing Amanda and Lindsey some simple moves they could use to break free if someone actually grabbed them. Lindsey was only 7 at the time, and I wasn’t sure she could use the moves effectively. Boy was I wrong.”

“These kids learned the moves faster than most adults. And they loved learning them. Later, my son, who is a big guy, grabbed Lindsey every way he could and tried to hold her. She zipped out of his hands every time. Amanda, at 10 was bigger. She got away with barely any effort.”

“I don’t believe that any adult can grab either of my granddaughters and hold on to them. Adults don’t expect a kid to react, and kids are fast. I rested a lot easier after they learned the moves. The fact is, if a creep can’t grab a kid and hold on, he can’t kidnap that child. I realized then that we should make this program available to every kid in the country.”




As you will see, DOK Lee does not teach any aggressive behavior at all in these programs. Instead, he teaches kids to GET AWAY FROM DANGER, even if they are grabbed. The moves he teaches are simple, easy and fun to learn. And, they can save your child’s life!

Use this guide and video as we outline in the following pages how to organize your own Family Protection Program, and you will begin to feel more peace of mind than you every thought possible!

LET’S GET STARTED!




INFORM AND EDUCATE YOURSELVES

Information is Power

Begin by confronting the problem as a family or “family group”. This is a whole family issue. In many families, the discussions about the difficult issues are denied or avoided. THIS ISSUE CANNOT BE IGNORED – your children’s very LIVES are at stake. When you as parents deal with the tough problems, your family will grow stronger as a unit and will grow closer together.

KNOWLEDGE REPLACES FEAR -- DOK Lee first heard that phrase over 40 years ago when he was a “green” 20 year-old recruit. He had been hand-picked from the ranks to train to become a member of a top secret, elite commando group. He was the youngest professional soldier ever to qualify for what would become one of the most deadly fighting forces in history.

He vividly remembers the first morning of training. “We were standing at attention in ranks, 200 of us. We all knew that only 10 of us would ‘make the grade.’ The others were all older, most of them bigger and more experienced than I was. It was cold. I was nervous and scared and it was all I could do to keep from trembling.”

“Then the instructor strode up to a podium in front of us,” DOK Lee continues. “He was powerfully built, older looking Sergeant with a deeply wrinkled, sun-browned face and piercing gray eyes. He looked like he had never known fear in his life.




‘Some of you boys looked scared,’ the instructor finally said. ‘That’s good. Always keep an element of fear. It will keep you alive. But, too much fear can paralyze you. So you have to learn to control fear. Most fear comes from the unknown. Fear comes from not knowing what to do in a given situation. We are going to teach you skills that will allow you to know instantly what to do in any situation. You see, boys, KNOWLEDGE REPLACES FEAR.’

“That made sense to me,” DOK Lee concluded. “From that day on, I’ve used those words to live by.”

The same principal applies today to keeping our kids safe. We have to face our fears and then educate ourselves and our children so that we know what to do, and what not to do. Not only do we need to know how to prevent problems from arising, we need to know what to do if problems do occur.

Fear of strangers, for example, is an emotion that every child should feel. It is a sad commentary on our society that we need to teach children not to trust people they don’t know. This is survival, though. The fact is that open, outgoing kids that want to make friends with everybody, run a higher risk of being fooled or grabbed by an evil “stranger.”

Kids need to be taught that Stranger can equal DANGER. But, we don’t want them to become so fearful of “strangers” that it affects their social development. We have to offset some of that fear with knowledge.




We need to help kids realize that not all strangers are evil, but some are. And, there is no way for them to tell which ones are and which are not. Kids need to understand that they must be cautious and stay out of reach of ALL strangers.

This is a hard lesson to teach and to learn. An “evil stranger” doesn’t necessarily look or act evil or strange. Child molesters and kidnappers are manipulative and cunning. They can appear friendly and nice. They can even appear helpless and in need of assistance. It’s tough to have to teach a kid not to help a stranger, even if they appear to need help. But, we have to teach them that they can never make exceptions!

Listed below are some common lures used by molesters and kidnappers. Think about how these appeals would work on you, and how they would be even more effective on a trusting child:

7.I lost my puppy (kitten, etc.), can you please help me find him? He’s scared and hungry and I have to find him. Won’t you please help me?

8.I need assistance …could you please help me change my tire (move this box, carry this package, etc.). I’ll give you money if you will help me.

9.I’m lost. Can you please give me directions?

10.I’m feeling very sick and I’m not sure if I can walk across the street (to my car, to my house, etc.). Can you help me walk so I won’t fall?

1. I have a great new game in my car. Come on and we will get it so we can play.
2. Your mother was in an accident (your house is on fire, etc.). Your mommy sent me to get you. Hurry! Come on quickly!
3. Some molesters and kidnappers pretend to be authority figures. They even use fake badges and uniforms to gain a child’s confidence.

Some of these lures would even work on you or other adults. How could a kid possibly know what is true? Again, we have to teach and continually reinforce that kids must stay away from ALL STRANGERS!

Molesters and kidnappers, like all criminals, look for the easiest prey. Kids who display the activities and character traits below can be particularly vulnerable and may need extra attention.

1. Kids who hang out by themselves and act like loners.
2. Kids who stray from well-known routes and take shortcuts.
3. Kids who blindly obey authority or adults in general.
4. Kids who are hesitant and have not learned to trust their instincts.
5. Kids who appear to be starved for affection or seeking attention.

It may surprise you to learn that the most exploited age group is actually 10 – 18 year olds. That may be because as kids get older, they begin to lose their fear. They get bolder and more self-assured. Of course, we should




support their developing social confidence. But, we have to continue to reinforce the dangers they face every day. Remember that John Wayne Gacy killed 32 young boys. Ted Bundy abducted 27 girls and young women. Both these mass murderers said that they lured their victims by appearing to be “nice people.”

Fear, then, can be a lifesaving emotion. But fear needs to be tempered with knowledge. Evil Knievel, the famous daredevil motorcyclist, once said that he feels fear every time he climbs on a motorcycle. He said that fear and respect for danger are what keeps him alive.




COMMUNICATE WITH YOUR CHILDREN

The intent of this guide is to help you develop a family safety program. The next chapter contains a wealth of information to help you create a safer environment for your family at home and out in the world. Before this information can be truly useful, however, you must develop COMMUNICATION with your kids and within the family unit.

That may sound oblivious but there is a big difference between teaching your kids and communicating with them. You, as a parent or authority figure, can learn the information in this guide and in the video. You might then make up a set of rules and insist that your kids follow them. That would be better than doing nothing, but it would not be the most effective way for them to learn

( The entire content of this GuideBook (33 more pages) is included with the purchase of the "Kid's Protection Video".)